tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6918105604270007470.post2283828172590587436..comments2023-10-09T15:47:14.355-04:00Comments on And you may ask yourself-well...how did I get here?: More Holiday StuffStarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18241931590875029855noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6918105604270007470.post-37710357767034175142009-11-21T18:27:42.542-05:002009-11-21T18:27:42.542-05:00I am not where you are at, emotionally, but I do r...I am not where you are at, emotionally, but I do remember being in this frame of mind just last year. I joined a widows/widowers group in 2008, and had opportunities to talk with others about THEIR feelings. One asked if I still had dreams -- and at first, I thought she meant the kind you had when you fell asleep. But she explained further, and I had to admit that I did NOT have any dreams, any plans. We -- WE had had plans -- before his death. And that was gone now. I know that you find this hard to believe, but you will move on from this place, these feelings, and it might take a long time. Hugs to you, in your memories and struggles. You have many "sisters" on the 'net, and I found your blog listed on Janine's blog, One Day at a Time.jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02598544917785126150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6918105604270007470.post-23073871067347057672009-11-19T01:52:02.779-05:002009-11-19T01:52:02.779-05:00This is my first holiday season without Elias. SO...This is my first holiday season without Elias. SO not looking forward to it - I get what you are saying completely.<br /><br />I told a friend the other day that I just wanted to go to bed on December 21st and wake up on January 3rd.<br /><br />If I didn't have the girls that's probably what I would do - but I feel like I should still do something for their sake.<br /><br />I hope you can find something that works for you, <br /><br />~C~Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com