tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6918105604270007470.post3901494350575306135..comments2023-10-09T15:47:14.355-04:00Comments on And you may ask yourself-well...how did I get here?: Surviving SpouseStarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18241931590875029855noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6918105604270007470.post-29378125289707462562009-02-21T15:40:00.000-05:002009-02-21T15:40:00.000-05:00Hi,I'm a widow, too. I just found your blog. My hu...Hi,<BR/>I'm a widow, too. I just found your blog. My husband died unexpectedly in Jan 07.<BR/><BR/>I can relate to how you feel now.<BR/><BR/>All you can do is breathe. One more breath.<BR/><BR/>If you are like me, you will feel lost for a long time. But then one day you will realize that you are ok. And on another day, some time into the future, you will realize that you are happy.<BR/><BR/>In my experience, I needed to feel the pain. I felt every little bit. I sat next to it, and I sat in it. I turned it into my friend. Not one that I would choose if I had a choice, but one that I came to accept, recognize, and know well.<BR/><BR/>You cannot outrun yourself, so you can change the surroundings or some of the cirumstances but it will not take away the pain. <BR/><BR/>Unfortunately, you have to feel it.<BR/>But it will get better, I promise. <BR/><BR/>I promise. <BR/><BR/>You will learn how to live in a new way, and you will come to like your life again.<BR/><BR/>Much love and encouragement to you, and I'm here if you need anything,<BR/><BR/>MelodieMelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05252415753817950987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6918105604270007470.post-50919835036855422542009-02-19T21:10:00.000-05:002009-02-19T21:10:00.000-05:00Star,Thanks for always writing what is going on. ...Star,<BR/>Thanks for always writing what is going on. I know that I can not truly comprehend what you are feeling but I appreciate your honesty which gives me a glimpse. If you want to come here and hang out for a bit, you are always welcome.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10186085064360843035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6918105604270007470.post-43699609402741929092009-02-19T15:02:00.000-05:002009-02-19T15:02:00.000-05:00I am so sad for you. What are your beliefs on medi...I am so sad for you. What are your beliefs on medications? My mom had an extremely rough year losing her mom and dog within days of each other and was perscribed something for a few months to help. This is so incredibly rough, I would be feeling the same way as you, just thought maybe it would help for awhile?fallgirlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08820118737267639232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6918105604270007470.post-13274716328485737272009-02-19T13:13:00.000-05:002009-02-19T13:13:00.000-05:00Is there some place you could take a bit of travel...Is there some place you could take a bit of travel to?Rachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15135035956922105646noreply@blogger.com