tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6918105604270007470.post8641718363887535018..comments2023-10-09T15:47:14.355-04:00Comments on And you may ask yourself-well...how did I get here?: This is Suppose to Feel GoodStarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18241931590875029855noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6918105604270007470.post-37729780179778767712009-07-20T12:24:05.769-04:002009-07-20T12:24:05.769-04:00You put this so well. So eloquent, so painful.You put this so well. So eloquent, so painful.Roadshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06701468219259761540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6918105604270007470.post-87415287797616422972009-07-13T03:55:42.690-04:002009-07-13T03:55:42.690-04:00I feel similar about the receiving the life insura...I feel similar about the receiving the life insurance from his employment plan and the mortgage insurance payment I just received. It's helpful to have that settled but I wish I didn't have it - I wish I had Elias.<br /><br />I'm sure I still have a way to go before the rest is done, but I'll likely feel the same.<br /><br />~Chelsea~Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6918105604270007470.post-40256611629036723252009-07-10T10:50:30.106-04:002009-07-10T10:50:30.106-04:00Due to some issues with her former employer, my wi...Due to some issues with her former employer, my wife's estate was not closed until it had been almost two years. But I still felt much the way you described.<br /><br />Hang in there.Split-Second Single Fatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00192370092337202063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6918105604270007470.post-28320074078063464982009-07-09T23:56:18.360-04:002009-07-09T23:56:18.360-04:00It's hard to escape those reminders that more ...It's hard to escape those reminders that more time than you'd like has passed since the death. As long as "death stuff" is still happening, still needing attention, then the death can't be all *that* long ago...right? So when they end, it's yet another reminder. I totally get it. <br /><br />It takes a while to get some equilibrium back once all the big death stuff--like the estate, getting rid of their stuff, rolling over retirement accounts...other things on the Dead Spouse Checklist--gets done. I remember feeling some gratefulness and relief that, even if Charley was dead and wasn't here, having to deal with tasks related to his death at least meant he was here in some small, oblique way, that he'd existed at all and that I was still his wife. And yes--it's strange...mixed emotions...when they go away.<br /><br />Hang in there! Hugs!Candicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11637366044613952294noreply@blogger.com