As a kid, it was annoying.
I was shy and having to tell my teachers the first day of school to call me "Star" instead of my first name was a dreaded experience.
What would the teacher say?
What would the other kids think?
But over the years, I started to like it.
I noticed that my name was a conversation piece.
People would always ask about my name.
"Where does it come from?" "Who named you?" "Are your parents hippies?"
And as an added bonus, I could tell who knew me when the phone rang depending on what name they used.
When I married Roger, it was easy legally to change my name.
I dropped my maiden last name and added Roger's last name.
No problem really.
Except for just feeling weird about a new name.
When Mr. X and I become engaged, I was distraught with the name situation.
Mr. X wanted me to have his last name.
Which I get. Which I want.
But how to change it?
I was concerned about my name being so long if I had four names.
And which parts go where into the standard three part forms if I had four?
And I did not want to drop "Star".
And I did not want to drop Roger's last name.
And I did not want to have a hyphenated last name after talking with some friends.
What to do? What to do?
At least eight months of indecision, asking others, and debating within myself.
Finally I decided I would drop my first name.
I got comfortable with that decision.
I got excited about my new upcoming name.
I made up my mind.
So when we came home from our honeymoon to find our marriage record, I was psyched.
I could start the name change process.
First stop, the federal government's lovely Social Security Administration office.
I checked in.
Opened my book and started reading.
Miraculously after about thirty minutes, my number was called.
But then bad news.
Federal government. Homeland Security.
Cannot change my given first name in anyway.
Cannot be dropped.
Cannot be added to.
First names must stay exactly the same.
Ugh. Ugh. UGH!
So I have four names now.
First Star Roger's Mr. X's.
I have two middle names.
Which of course is the shortest field of most forms.
This should be fun... Sigh.
Federal government strikes again.