Monday, May 30, 2011

I'm Getting Married, Again

[I tried to write this post over a week ago before going on vacation but blogger was being weird.  This is part II of this post but it has been more than ten days now so...]

Mr. X has been telling me how much he wants to marry me for some time now.
He has even revealed that he thought of proposing last July but did not.
But in March of this year, he said he would ask me to marry him by the end of the year.
All my friends said it would be while we were on vacation in Alaska.
I thought it would be while I was in Alaska.
But he surprised me a bit.

Over two weeks ago, Mr. X and I were at home on a Friday night just relaxing.
He had just sold some things on eBay.
He turned and told me to find a ring I loved.
We had looked at rings over Christmas and I even tried on a few.
Orginially I was going to go with the traditional diamond engagement ring.
But about a month ago, I decided I did not want another diamond ring.
I had a diamond ring.
I am not a huge bling person and why would I another diamond ring?
I wanted something different.
Something other people would not to compare to the first ring that I still wear on my right hand.
So I asked for a blue sapphire.
A sapphire would match my right hand ring.
And Mr. X and I both love blue.

I found a couple of rings online that we could go see that night in person.
Mr. X told me to get my shoes on.
He was buying me a ring.

We went to two stores.
The first ring was amazing.
But I had to try on the second one at a different store.
I decided the first ring was the ring.
Lo and behold, the lady who helped Roger and I with my first diamond was the only one available to help us.
What are the chances?!
She did not recognize me.
As the girl I was in 2006.
Or the new widow I was in 2008.
Or at least I think not.
At least I hope not.

Mr. X had a plan to present me with the ring the next day with a nice speech after my return home.
But the ring was not ready in time.
We both went to pick up the ring instead.
It started to pour.
I tried the ring on to make sure it fit and gave it back to Mr. X.
It is beautiful.
It is so unique.

We ran back to the car.
Mr. X gave me a small speech that I only remember one specific part.
He said I made him feel like he was at home.
Same thing Roger said to me in the love letter I read after the accident.
I said yes.

A widow getting married.
The Talking Heads song that inspired the title of this blog instantly filled my head.
But I like it here.


Funny Girl said...

OMGoodness!!!!! Congratulations!!!! Am so excited for you!!!!!!!! :o)

Crash Course Widow said...

I know I've already said it to you on Facebook, but I wanted to make it Blog Official: CONGRATULATIONS, STAR!!! So happy for you!! =)

Love and hugs,

Hira Animfefte said...

Oh, I am SO HAPPY for you! I could just dance for joy! :)

I wish you and Mr X all the happiness in the world. God grant you both many, many, many years!

Regaining my self image said...

So happy for you!!

Congrats!! :)

Janine (txmomx6) said...

Congratulations to both of you, Star!! I'm thrilled for you. You are indeed blessed to find two men to whom you feel like "home".
God's blessings on your future.

jrose35 said...

Congratulations Star! You deserve all the happiness in the world and I am so happy for you! Wishing you much happiness and love with you and your soon-to-husband.

Janine (txmomx6) said...

Congratulations, Star .... to both of you. I wish you happiness and love and ..... everything.

Michele Neff Hernandez said...

Congratulations Star! May joy seep into your soul, love fill the days of your life, and peace envelope you on this journey with another wonderful man.

Jen said...

Hi Star ~

I wanted to stop in and say, CONGRATULATIONS! I am so happy you are happy, and are getting married. I wish you the best in the world.