People never know what to say.
And I get that.
I do not even know what to say.
I tell people about my husband dying last year and then they say "I'm sorry for your loss" and then I do not know what to say after that.
Quick change of subject? "Thanks"? "Yeah, it's okay"?
But some people say a lot of stuff.
A lot of weird stuff.
Sometimes stupid stuff.
Last week, I was talking to my twin and she told me a story of how someone said to her "God needed him more."
I had to laugh.
Realy, God needed one human so much that said human had to die and come to heaven?
Now, let's look at some of this logic.
God is all knowing, all powerful, beyond time, etc.
So why would God need anyone?
Why would God need one specific person?
God needed a specific skill that the dead person had?
Doesn't said person's wife or husband or family need said person more?
Aren't humans the ones who need people?
Can't humans do more good on earth alive than when dead?
I mean, yeah, dead people can give up their organs and such but...
I realize this person was just trying to say something.
Say something comforting.
Trying to rationalize a horrible thing.
But if God needs someone what does that say about His abilities?
But I guess it goes back to the old saying: "It is the thought that counts" but I cannot help but think if people really do need to think before they say something.
The best thing to say: "I am sorry for your loss."
"I am sorry that you had to go through a horrible thing."
Because beyond that, there is nothing.
Especially telling me or any widow or widower that God needed their spouse more than them.
I needed Roger.
I needed him more.