And I have to say it is frustrating.
I want to say to all of them, "Are you kidding me?"
First, do they really think I am that weak?
Have I not proven that I can handle the worst pain ever?
I am stronger than most, I think.
I think I can deal.
I am actually pretty sure I can deal.
Even if I cry, it does not mean I am weak.
Get over it.
Second, if it does hurt me, do they really think I could not survive this new pain?
I mean, come on.
I lost my husband.
The man I loved more than anything else.
My best friend.
And I survived.
And I am surviving.
My sister-in-law says I am even thriving.
Do they think they are on the same level at that?
Do they think the pain they may cause will hurt me that badly?
Even if they were half as important, I am pretty sure I can survive not being with them.
I may get a scar in the process, but scars still heal.
Third, what kind of person wants to hurt other people?
As long people do not hurt me intentionally, then it is fine.
I will be fine.
Cry, maybe. But I will be fine.
And I have to believe the people I am dating are not the type to hurt people on purpose.
I am a better reader of people than that.
Sometimes, I put myself into situations knowing the outcome.
I know what I am doing most of the time.
I know the outcome of some things before I do them.
I would not put myself into a situation that I could not handle.
I know what I need.
I know what I want.
And I know how to express those things and get those things.
It is not necessary to treat me differently.
It is not necessary to try not to hurt me anymore than normal when dating me.
I am not that different than an ordinary person besides surviving a tragedy.
Yes, my heart was broken.
But many people get their hearts broken.
And I will always survive.