Thursday, June 25, 2009

MY Side of the Bed

The weirdest thing happened.
Maybe three or four weeks ago.
I migrated.

Before this newest migration, I had been sleeping either on Roger's old side of the bed or in the middle.
But never ever on my side.
I could not do it.
It felt weird.
It felt like betrayal as odd as that sounds.
Like I was going back to old ways.
Like I was denying something.

But a couple of weeks ago, out of necessity, I had to go back.
I did a ton of laundry.
I dumped it on the bed thinking I would do it before I tucked myself in.
Much not to my surprise, I did not.
I went to study for an exam and did not return to my room until I was exhausted.
Until it was entirely too late to put away laundry.
Until I was only getting a couple hours of sleep before the exam.

This huge pile was covering my "normal" sleeping areas.
Crap.
I debated staying up an additional half hour and putting the laundry away.
But I was tired.
So tired.

So...
I went over to the old Star sleeping spot.
And the most amazing thing happened, I slept so well.
And the next night.
And the next night.
And the next night.

Hmm, maybe it is time to move back permanently?
I am not sure.
But...

Another old habit is cropping up as well.
I used to travel for work as a consultant.
Monday through Thursday I stayed in hotels for two years.
I would almost always get a king size bed.
Then I would sleep diagonally or horizontally with my head on my side of the bed.
This has resumed. I wake up in this position.
I am not sure how I feel about this old new habit.

I am not sure how I feel about any of these new/old sleeping habits.
Does it mean something?
Does it mean nothing?
Sigh...

3 comments:

Ann said...

Isn't interesting how differently we all approach this thing called grief? For me, it took me a year before I would consider ever sleeping on his side of the bed even though it was the one more easily accessed from the room. The second year, I moved things from my side bedside table to his and year two was spent on his side. Year three was pretty much on his side with a lot of time in the middle.

We have something in common; neither of us was married very long. For me it was only 14 months and like you, it is a bit disconcerting how easily old single habits return. I don't think it really "means" anything except that we didn't get to spend enough time with the men we loved.

Supa Dupa Fresh said...

DID YOU EVER FOLD THAT LAUNDRY??????

X

Supa

netekay said...

You are lucky that you could sleep on his side. I piled pillows on David's side because of the memory of what happened there. Two weeks later, I bought a new bed because I just could not stand it any longer.

Now I sleep on my own bed but on his side of the room. That feels okay to me... :)

Lynette